Co-parenting can be tough, monumentally tough. First,  there are the inconsistencies in our parenting approach: daddy lets Cygnet eat lollipops; kick a ball in the house; not brush his teeth; takes him swimming when he has green snot coming out of his nose; lets him have a three hour nap in the afternoon when he is due to return to mummy in the evening.  The three hour-long afternoon nap saga is a particular irritant for me at the moment.  Cygnet is…

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I learned something at the weekend. I learned about a twink and a twunk, an otter, a cub, a bear, and a muscle bear.  This blog post isn’t going to be a life lesson shared or some inspirational quote for you all, but it might be good for a giggle.  I went for a drink with my male gay friend.  We’ve been friends since university, which now means donkey’s years.  All of my other university friends have changed.  Their lives…

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Sunday was a tough day for me as a single mum.  Often I don’t even think about the fact that I am a single mum.  I am just a mum.  I love my son and I’d do anything for him.  I am like almost every other mother in that respect.    But today my single motherhood hit me. Single motherhood hit me because I was surrounded by happy families.  I took Cygnet to the park to play football, to build sandcastles…

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I was sorting through my books the other day.  I confess to being one of those terrible people who has a collection of high brow books on display in my living room.  I buy them because the covers look nice, the topic is intellectual or the author is well regarded.  Sometimes, I even read them, but more often, I am ashamed to say, I do not. Whilst sorting through my books I discovered the book ‘What do Women Want? :…

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When will female masturbation no longer be taboo?  I think I would feel less embarrassed if someone walked in on me having sex than if someone walked in on me masturbating. And that’s just crazy. I am a female masturbator. To avoid this blog post just turning into another one of my rants (have you read my rant about the anti-abortion campaign?) I thought I would do a bit of research…into female masturbation and into vibrators. Women’s sexuality and vibrators…

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I am a bad mother. I’m feeling rubbish about myself today.  Cygnet was snotty this morning.  In fact he was more than a bit snotty, green bogies were flying everywhere, his eyes were gunky and tired, he was under the weather, he was feeling sorry for himself and he needed a day at home sitting on the sofa reading books and watching Thomas the Tank Engine on the iPad (we watch the old style one where Ringo Star does the…

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At University I took course entitled Feminism, Stories of Love and Desire. During this ten week course we studied various novels by French female writers which talked about feminism, love, unconventional relationships and sex.  We discussed these novels in class.  It probably won’t surprise you to hear that we discussed sex in class a lot too. One of these novels really struck a chord with me, and today, nearly fifteen years later, I am thinking about this novel again. The…

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The problem with being an anonymous blogger is that, in order to maintain anonymity, any relationship that I have with my fellow bloggers has to be virtual. I have read some pretty awesome blogs and some absolutely hysterical blog posts over the last year or so and there are some lovely ladies (and my blogging superheroes are all heroines I’m afraid) out there who I am dying to share a bottle of wine and giggles with. So, my lovely ladies,…

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Single mum dating is tough.  The challenges are many and varied.  Let’s explore a few: Single mum dating challenge number 1:   Finding a man willing to date a single mum I thought that the most challenging thing about dating as a single mum would be finding a man who even wants to go on a date.  There aren’t that many single mum’s in their mid-30s on the dating scene. Why would a man date a woman in her mid-30s…

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My Facebook feed and the news are flooded with images from anti-abortion campaigners.  I am not going to show them here, or add links to this blog, because there is no way that I am going to do anything to support their campaign. These images are upsetting.  They are chosen to be upsetting.  They are chosen to upset you so much that they will put off having an abortion. Now that I am a mother, I know that there would…

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