I’m feeling contemplative, reflective, pensive, and maybe just a tiny bit morose.  Carole King’s masterpiece, So Far Away, is playing. It is one of my favourite songs.  I am on my second glass of a heavy red wine. “You’re so far away.  Doesn’t anybody stay in one place any more ? It would be so fine to see your face at my door.”  The lyrics make me remember the good times. For me, So Far Away is not just about…

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This was supposed to be an optimistic post. I was going to try to reassure you that all will be okay even though Donald Trump has just been voted into the White House in the United States presidential elections.  I have been trying to reassure myself.  I woke at 5:40am GMT on Wednesday 9 November.  Trump’s victory was certain, if not secured, and I felt sick.  I felt sick to the pit of my stomach.  I still do. Since then,…

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Cygnet:  “Mama wee wee red” Me: no reply Cygnet: “What’s that?”    Me: pause Cygnet:  “What’s that Mama?” Me: Sigh, “It’s Mama’s” Cygnet: “What is it? “ Me: Sigh, “It’s a tampon sweetheart, it’s Mama’s” Cygnet: “tampon” Cygnet: “Mama did a noisy bottom” Me: “Thank you sweetheart” Cygnet:  “Mama done a poo” Me: “No, Mama’s not done a poo, Mama’s done a wee wee”. Me:  “ Cygnet put the toilet brush down”   “Put the toilet brush down” “LEAVE IT”…

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Two thoughts enter my head every time I see my ex which, unfortunately, because we are in a ‘co-parenting relationship’ is at least twice a week.  These are: Thank God I am not married to this man.  In 6 years that we were together, yes, you read that correctly, we were together for 6 years, how on earth did I not see what an a******e he really is?  Now that I am back on the dating scene again I am…

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One of the few advantages of co-parenting, and trust me when I tell you that there are not many, is that two nights a week when Cygnet stays with his Dad I can go out without having to fork out for a babysitter. In reality, I work late on one of those nights and by the time I finish work I am too tired to do anything other than sit on the sofa and drink wine.  On the other night,…

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I have learned quite a lot about the relationship between a mother and her son.  I have also learned quite a lot about the impact the relationship between a mother and her son has on the son’s relationship with his partner.  It is for this reason that I think you should marry a man who loves his mother. It is often said that how a man treats his mother is an indicator of how he will treat his wife.  …

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Something happened to my son last weekend when he was with his dad.  I don’t know exactly what happened, but I do know that my son has been more reserved, hesitant, nervous and clingy ever since. My son is just over two and hasn’t got the language to tell me.  My ex hasn’t got the courage to tell me.  I could tell straight away that something had happened.  My ex delivered my son home as usual.  I gave my son…

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Those of you who have been reading this blog for a while will know that I am a net-curtain twitcher, a spying spinster extraordinaire.  The Tate Modern saga and net-curtain-gate therefore piqued my interest immediately and I had to see the performance drama for myself. Although I am not at home much during the day, from my balcony window I can see the comings and goings of all my neighbours in my block of flats.  I know, for example, that…

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I have a love / hate relationship with dating apps.  In fact I have a love / hate relationship with dating.  I love the idea of dating: the anticipation; the optimism I feel that I might actually meet someone interesting; the potential for a couple of months of excitement and butterflies that you get in the early stages of a relationship.     I hate the fact that dating is so often disappointing.  I hate the moment when you see…

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I have been a single mum for about eighteen months now.  It has been an adventure.  There are some great things about being a single mum, things that make me really proud to be part of the single parent community. There are also some things about being a single mum that are really tough.  The toughest thing about being a single mum is facing the single mum myths that are out there. Let’s explore a few of these single mum myths:…

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