I’ve been feeling frazzled lately. What with a work/childcare schedule with no give or flexibility in it, a busy full time job and a whole heap of other things weighing on my mind there have been a few occasions recently when I have felt that it is all just too much. I have been feeling frazzled and needed to treat myself. Co-parenting, for all its drawbacks and believe me there are many, does give me the occasional time out. This weekend…

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It was a cold Sunday afternoon in January over two years ago when my ex and I first discussed separation.  Things were bad.  He taunted me.  “What about Cygnet? You don’t want Cygnet to come from a broken home.”  My ex didn’t believe that I would have the courage to leave, and after googling “broken home” that night, I nearly didn’t. Broken home children are ‘five times more likely to suffer mental troubles’  said the Daily Mail Children from broken…

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When I ditched the dating apps at the beginning of the year, I told myself that I would have three months off and then I would re-open some of my accounts, potentially explore some different apps and start swiping again.  Oh, the delights of dating like a millennial! Now that these three months are up, I am just not sure I can be bothered.   Online dating apps are so bloody boring, conversations can be so tedious, meeting these guys…

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I love a good podcast.  In fact podcasts have recently become a bit of an addiction. I look forward to my daily Podcast binge.  Whilst standing on a stuffy train on my commute to work Podcasts enable me to zone out and imagine that I am somewhere else and in conversation with some really interesting people.  I’m always on the look out for new and interesting podcasts and I’d love to hear your recommendations.  Here, in no particular order,  are…

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There are some curious goings on in the garages at the back of my flat. I like to keep an eye on what goes on in my block of flats.  I have told you about the wheelie-suitcase-wielding spinster who lives in the flat beneath me.  I think I also told you about the sexy guy who helped me carry the buggy down the stairs and then, just as I my teenage crush was beginning to blossom, he moved out. Behind…

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Everyone struggles sometimes.  Whilst our social media feeds may be showing perfect lives with sunshine filled images of smiling children and perfectly designed houses, there are cracks. There are cracks in the exterior.  There are cracks in the façade.   Everyone struggles.  Everyone is coping with something. I want to share something… This isn’t a story about me, or a story about Cygnet.  It is a story about a special person, a person very dear to me and Cygnet.  A…

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Women cannot have it all, and that is not just because our governments and society are failing us (and they are), it is because there are just not enough hours in the day. We cannot be the ideal homemaker at the same time as having the career that we dreamed of and studied for at University.  We all have to make compromises.  Every six months or so, I meet up with my University friends for a night out in London. …

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There is an abundance of co-parenting guides out there.  I have a fair few lined up on my bookshelf.  I have even read a couple of them.  The advice is similar.  Co-parenting success is when you put the child first.  Co-parenting success is when you are respectful to your co-parent. Co-parenting success is when you communicate effectively. All of this sounds sensible in principle, but what does co-parenting success actually look like in practice? I have a friend who invites…

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For some of us, Mothers’ Day is better for being single, while for others of us it’s worse, and for others it’s just different.  I am firmly in the first category. I am lucky, because I now get two presents on Mother’s Day, one from my son, arranged by my ex and one from my son, arranged by my mum.  My ex and I separated just before Mother’s Day a couple of years ago.  He didn’t buy a present that…

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Since I had Cygnet my periods have been a lot heavier than they were before I had a baby.  One of you commented on my blog post about the clitoris that your orgasms have been different since you gave birth.  I don’t know why periods and orgasms might be different after childbirth –  I haven’t done my research yet, but I do know that on the first day of my period each month I wish I had shares in Tampax…

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