Women cannot have it all, and that is not just because our governments and society are failing us (and they are), it is because there are just not enough hours in the day. We cannot be the ideal homemaker at the same time as having the career that we dreamed of and studied for at University.  We all have to make compromises.  Every six months or so, I meet up with my University friends for a night out in London. …

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There is an abundance of co-parenting guides out there.  I have a fair few lined up on my bookshelf.  I have even read a couple of them.  The advice is similar.  Co-parenting success is when you put the child first.  Co-parenting success is when you are respectful to your co-parent. Co-parenting success is when you communicate effectively. All of this sounds sensible in principle, but what does co-parenting success actually look like in practice? I have a friend who invites…

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For some of us, Mothers’ Day is better for being single, while for others of us it’s worse, and for others it’s just different.  I am firmly in the first category. I am lucky, because I now get two presents on Mother’s Day, one from my son, arranged by my ex and one from my son, arranged by my mum.  My ex and I separated just before Mother’s Day a couple of years ago.  He didn’t buy a present that…

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Since I had Cygnet my periods have been a lot heavier than they were before I had a baby.  One of you commented on my blog post about the clitoris that your orgasms have been different since you gave birth.  I don’t know why periods and orgasms might be different after childbirth –  I haven’t done my research yet, but I do know that on the first day of my period each month I wish I had shares in Tampax…

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“People are too complicated to have simple labels” wrote Philip Pullman in The Amber Spyglass.  This isn’t the first time that an author has managed, quite succinctly, to summarise my exact feelings. Children are too complicated to have simple labels. My ex is worried.  He is worried about our son, Cygnet, because Cygnet is “quiet”. Cygnet is “shy”.  What I think my ex is really worried about is that Cygnet is inheriting what my ex perceives to be his parents’…

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The word clitoris derives from the Greek word kleitoris which means “little hill”.  For two millennia, we have thought that our most sensitive organ, which has no other purpose than to make us feel good, bears resemblance to a little hill.  This, my friends, is depressing. Our clitoris is so much more than a little hill.  Let me tell you how to find your clitoris, your whole clitoris. Cygnet is two and a half.  I don’t remember when he first…

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When I deleted all of my dating apps on 2nd January this year, it wasn’t a bad date that made me do it. Nor was it the dick pics (don’t panic, clicking on that link won’t show you a dick pic), or the fact that I had been ghosted…again.  It was the sheer overwhelming mundanity of it all.  I was spending hours swiping left on Tinder and Bumble.  I would end up going to bed really late having just wasted an…

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I was a little embarrassed as I explained to the waitress that I had broken off my engagement and was now celebrating the two year anniversary of what was probably the best decision of my life.  My parents and I, just the three of us, were eating brunch and drinking prosecco. I was doubly embarrassed when she brought a small “Happy Anniversary” cake to the table.  For me it is a happy anniversary but I feel guilty about celebrating my…

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A single, and guilty mum.  That’s me. I juggle a lot.  Before I go on about how busy I am I should say that this is my choice.  Okay, the options aren’t vast.  I have to work to pay the mortgage, the bills and to feed and clothe us.  You could also argue that I chose to become a single mum.  I was the one who left.  Again the alternative wasn’t great.  Spend the rest of your life in a…

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If your relationship has drifted apart, or if you want to know how to fall back in love with your partner, then you might want to try asking the 36 questions in love. Everywhere I went on Valentine’s Day I was surrounded by public kisses, bunches of flowers, couples holding hands, heart shaped balloons and teddy bears.  I bought a heart shaped helium balloon for my two year old son, because I love him, and I bought some chocolates for…

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