When my son was a very young baby I often used to walk with him horizontal in his pram around the shopping mall.  I used to find that he’d fall asleep by the time I got to the end of my road, would stay asleep during the twenty minute walk to the shopping mall despite the cacophony of noise from ambulances, buses, kids shouting, but would wake up and start crying the second that I entered the shopping mall.  This…

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Before my child was born, I decided that I was going to breastfeed, but I also told myself that I wouldn’t beat myself up if I struggled or if it didn’t work. After my child was born, my desire to breastfeed eclipsed the sun.  I did struggle.  It took a few days for my milk to come in, my baby lost weight, and we had to top him up with formula.  I was expressing milk like a demon to try…

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Daddy took baby to his Granny’s on Saturday night.  They stayed all day Sunday.  This was the longest period that baby and I had been apart since baby was born.  Baby was fine, but I was sad.    I needed to distract myself and to take my mind off missing my son.  I can’t claim to have a wealth of experience, but from my first weekend without my baby, these are my distraction tips:  1.  Do something, or go somewhere,…

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I split up with my fiancé a couple of months ago.  I’d like to say I left, but until we sell the house I have nowhere to go, so we are still living under the same roof albeit not the same ceiling. We were arguing a lot.  Some of the things he said during our arguments, but most importantly the threats he was making if he did not get his own way, made it very clear that he did not…

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Relationship breakdown when a child is involved feels overwhelming.  There are days when I think of the enormity of everything and I don’t think that I can cope. Going back to work full time, leaving my son in nursery when I have been with him 24/7 in recent months, selling the house, finding a new home for me and my son, the inevitable arguments that his Dad and I will have over parenting time and style, money trouble, the difficulty of…

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