I’ve discovered that I do not like Tinder. There is a wealth of advice out there that says that newly divorced or newly separated parents should wait to date.  Dating seems like a great idea to get over your ex, but you have to take the time to be yourself for a bit, to learn to like yourself again and to be happy in your own skin.  This makes a lot of sense, but my ex, well…I am over him…

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Emotional well-being is not the absence of emotions, but it is your ability to understand the value of your emotions and use them to move your life forward in positive directions. Hi, if you haven’t read my blog before, I am a newly single mum.  I am in my mid-30s and I have a son who is under one.  You can read more on my About Me page.  Today I have been thinking about my emotional well-being. My partner and…

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It has been a tough week.  It is now Saturday and baby is with his Daddy. Baby was with his Daddy last Sunday and I have been working all week.  I have only seen him for snippets of time first thing in the morning when we have to rush to go to work and nursery, or in the evening before he goes to bed when we are both tired and grouchy.  I can’t wait until tomorrow when I get to…

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“ What is love ?” was the most searched for phrase on Google in 2012.  I know this because I typed this phrase into google early this year.  My ” what is love ?” search returned about 1,100,000,000 results and the number one hit informed me that millions of people around the world want to know what love is. This ” what is love ?” google search of mine preceded a conversation with my now ex partner about love and…

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My ex partner and I are still living together.  We have sold the house and have both found properties to move to.  We are waiting for the sale to go through.  In the interim, I am in the spare room, he is in what was our bedroom.  Same roof, different ceiling – a less than ideal solution! My ex partner is keen to find a new wife as soon as possible.  I heard him talking on the phone about it…

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I blog anonymously.  No one who I know in person even knows that I blog, let alone my blog identity.  I don’t talk about blogging to my friends or to my family.  My community of fellow bloggers, whom I consider to be my friends, are totally separate from my offline friends.  The drawbacks of blogging anonymously are significant. I blog anonymously because my blog is my therapy.  For the first time readers among you, I am a newly single Mum. …

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Before my son was born I started writing in a baby book.  I plan to give it to him on his eighteenth birthday.  I used it almost like a diary.  I wrote about my pregnancy.  I stuck in pictures of my scans.  I recorded when I first felt him kick (17 weeks and 3 days).  Morning sickness.  I wrote about my engagement to his father.  I then wrote about childbirth, the first few challenging weeks of breastfeeding, his colic.  I…

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I have officially been a blogger for about a month. I have read a lot, written quite a lot, learned a lot and have been inspired a lot during my first month as a newbie blogger. My blog is my journey as a newly single Mum, but there is a lot of other stuff in here as well. A monthly round-up of what I written, what I’ve read and been inspired by, and what is in the pipeline feels like a…

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William and Kate (The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge) looked radiant and relaxed earlier on today as they presented their beautiful and sleeping daughter, the Royal baby, to the world.  Both of them were beaming.  It was so perfect that it was almost not real.  I think back to eight hours after I gave birth – blood was pouring out of me.  There is no way I could have contemplated wearing a white and yellow dress, or walking down steps,…

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I didn’t separate from my ex partner because of his family, but I now feel an immense sense of relief that I did not marry into their family.  Let me tell you all about my in-laws.  Let me give you a whistle-stop tour of the key personalities in the family.  Meet the in-laws: The mother A widow.  A devout Catholic.  She arranges flowers for the local church.  She loves art and history.  She’s a mother of four children.  She never did…

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