I blog anonymously.  No one who I know in person even knows that I blog, let alone my blog identity.  I don’t talk about blogging to my friends or to my family.  My community of fellow bloggers, whom I consider to be my friends, are totally separate from my offline friends.  The drawbacks of blogging anonymously are significant. I blog anonymously because my blog is my therapy.  For the first time readers among you, I am a newly single Mum. …

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Before my son was born I started writing in a baby book.  I plan to give it to him on his eighteenth birthday.  I used it almost like a diary.  I wrote about my pregnancy.  I stuck in pictures of my scans.  I recorded when I first felt him kick (17 weeks and 3 days).  Morning sickness.  I wrote about my engagement to his father.  I then wrote about childbirth, the first few challenging weeks of breastfeeding, his colic.  I…

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I have officially been a blogger for about a month. I have read a lot, written quite a lot, learned a lot and have been inspired a lot during my first month as a newbie blogger. My blog is my journey as a newly single Mum, but there is a lot of other stuff in here as well. A monthly round-up of what I written, what I’ve read and been inspired by, and what is in the pipeline feels like a…

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William and Kate (The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge) looked radiant and relaxed earlier on today as they presented their beautiful and sleeping daughter, the Royal baby, to the world.  Both of them were beaming.  It was so perfect that it was almost not real.  I think back to eight hours after I gave birth – blood was pouring out of me.  There is no way I could have contemplated wearing a white and yellow dress, or walking down steps,…

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I didn’t separate from my ex partner because of his family, but I now feel an immense sense of relief that I did not marry into their family.  Let me tell you all about my in-laws.  Let me give you a whistle-stop tour of the key personalities in the family.  Meet the in-laws: The mother A widow.  A devout Catholic.  She arranges flowers for the local church.  She loves art and history.  She’s a mother of four children.  She never did…

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Since visiting the Southbank Centre for the Changing Britain Festival on Saturday (you can read about my day here: Changing Britain ) I have been thinking a lot about Margaret Thatcher.  I’ve been pondering my relationship with Margaret Thatcher.  It has been a fun few days! Everyone has such strong views about Margaret Thatcher.  These days, few people will admit to liking her or to supporting her policies.   It is very difficult not to be influenced by the views…

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This is a regular post in which I document how I try to distract myself and take my mind of missing my baby when he is spending time with his Daddy.  I also try to do something that I would not be able to do with a small baby in tow.  Last time I went to Columbia Road flower market.   This week I went to a series of lectures as part of the Southbank Centre’s Changing Britain Festival.   Now,…

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If I think about my life I can see life’s big decision points, crossroads if you like, or forks in the road, that have dramatically changed the direction in which my life is headed. I am at one life’s big decision points, one of those crossroads, now. My last set of crossroads was seven years ago.  My then boyfriend asked me to move to the Caribbean with him.  He studied monkeys and had been awarded a postdoctoral research fellowship at…

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My parents are superheroes.  I am separating from partner.  Our son is under one.  The last few months have been really challenging emotionally, logistically, financially, in fact in most ways imaginable.  My parents are superheroes because: They have enabled me to see a way out of this relationship. They have helped me see that the future is not all bad, in fact they have helped me to be excited about the future. They have helped me to identify what is…

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Okay, before you start reading I should warn you may disagree with what I have written, some of you may disagree very strongly.  There is a whole spectrum of views on this issue.  I merely want to lay the foundations for a discussion.  This is the truth about my religion. Here goes… The dilemma: There is, as there is in many areas around the UK, a shortage of good primary schools and primary school places in our area.  There is,…

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