I never wanted a big wedding, and I could never imagine myself in a big white wedding dress. I hate being the centre of attention and I find the idea of spending such huge sums of money in one day on a ‘fairy tale’ wedding quite galling. I got engaged to be married in Antigua in March 2014. I gave birth to my little baba in August. I started planning our wedding in about October. We were going to get…

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For those of you who are new to my blog, I have recently separated from the father of my son.  Our son is under a year old.  We are still living together (until Tuesday!) and I am trying, desperately, to keep things as amicable as possible.  Sometimes this is a real struggle, because my ex has quite a temper and tensions are running high in our house at the moment.    As you will all know, it was Father’s Day…

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We exchanged contracts on the sale of our house today.  My ex partner also exchanged contracts on the purchase of his new house.  We are due to complete at the end of the month.  Although I haven’t really appreciated it until this evening, today is a great day.  Today marks the start of the countdown.  A countdown until the day when our stressful, wearisome, tense, atmospheric and at times tempestuous co-habitation will finally end. 13.5 days 324 hours 19440 minutes…

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I am moving house in two weeks’ time and I have started sorting through my life. Yesterday I was sorting through some old photos and letters. I meandered down memory lane.   There were no recent photos or letters. My recent photos and emails are stored on the internet and in ‘clouds’. How do we make sure that the digital age doesn’t take away our memories?  How do we keep the digital gate across memory lane open? I found bundles…

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I have been reading a bit about the oxytocin hormone recently. I don’t really know why, I just have.   I didn’t really know anything about oxytocin until I went to NCT classes before having my son and the teacher told us about the oxytocin hormone and its role during childbirth. It turns out that oxytocin isn’t just important during childbirth.  You could argue that the oxytocin hormone makes the world go round.  I want to be ‘hormonal’ if that…

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I have decided to get legal advice about the co-parenting arrangements for our son. I am not happy about this.  One of my top priorities in this separation has been that I don’t want things to descend to adversarial litigation.  I still don’t.  In fact custody battles, high legal costs, protracted legal processes are the last thing that I want.  Adversarial litigation would be the worst case scenario for my son and let us be absolutely clear, what is best…

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Baby went to Daddy for the entire weekend.  It was really tough, but in a bid to continue with my no doubt temporary respite from woe I am going to focus on the positives, and at the moment, I am going to take you on a short journey through the RA Summer Exhibition.  The RA is the Royal Academy of Arts, housed at Burlington House, Piccadilly, London.  Walk through the courtyard of the Royal Academy of Arts and underneath the…

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My grandmother, my Dad’s Mum, was a single mother.  Unbeknownst to my grandmother at the time of their marriage, my Dad’s father already had a family.  He already had a wife and four children.  He lied, and he and my grandmother got married.  My father was born.  The detail died with my grandmother in 1997, but I can only imagine how difficult the realisation of the truth and the subsequent divorce must have been in the 1950s and when my…

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It struck me last night that my blog is quite negative, it is quite downbeat and on occasion, just a little bit depressing.  I mean, it is not always depressing, from time to time I write something positive; my parents are superheroes was quite a positive post for example, as was my post about the royal baby. Generally though, my posts are a bit glum.  I have spoken about my relationship breakdown. I have used my blog as wine fuelled…

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I have officially been a blogger for about two months. I have read a lot, written quite a lot and learned a lot during my first two months as a newbie blogger.  My blog is my journey as a newly single Mum, but there is a lot else in here as well.  This is my newbie blogger round-up for May 2015. Newbie blogger round-up – What I’ve written  The One Lovely Blog Award Debbie from My Random Musings nominated me…

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