You probably know this already but it bears repeating – being a mom is the toughest but most rewarding job you will ever do. Emotionally rewarding as it is, it doesn’t pay the bills. Many of us either have no choice to, or simply want to, continue working while bringing up our little bundles of joy. There are many upsides to being a working single mom, but there is also quite a few downsides. One is an endless supply of…

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I didn’t spend my pregnancy reading pregnancy, labour and motherhood manuals.  In fact I mainly spent my pregnancy working, moving house (which included moving to a different country at 30 weeks) and supervising some fairly serious renovations to a house we were due to move into.  I did do a bit of research on labour.  Google petrified me  –  never type ‘episiotomy’ into Google and then hit images!  I also went to NCT classes (for those of you not familiar…

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Today is the deadline for all private companies in the UK, with over 250 employees, to publish how much their male employees earn compared to their female employees. Companies have been reporting their #genderpaygap This isn’t about equal pay where you compare the pay of a man and a woman who are doing exactly the same job, this is about the average hourly pay for all men in an organisation compared with the average hourly pay for all women. I…

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I was in need of an indulgent Sunday.  Life has been quite busy recently.  A new role at work is keeping me more than occupied.  I often sit down after Cygnet has gone to bed to do the thinking that I haven’t been able to do at work.  At least I can pour myself a glass of wine in the evening. Cygnet has been with his dad this weekend.  Our alternate weekend schedule means that I am now child free…

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On a rainy day like today it can be difficult to know what to do with a three year-old.  Our two bedroom flat just isn’t big enough to exhaust him so that he will sleep soundly at night (something that is really important to me).  Cygnet needs action, fresh air, activity, a good old run around.  Yet, when it is raining, the last thing I want to do is to hang around in the local park or even venture to…

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International Women’s Day #IWD2018 is a day when ordinarily I am frustrated and angry because there is so much to change and so little that I feel I can do to really make a difference.   Sexism, misogyny and inequality are so engrained in our society that they are normal and go unnoticed.  In the last year, we have called out sexual abuse and harassment – it turns out that everyone has a #MeToo story to share.  In the last…

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This isn’t the first time I have written about the advantages of being a single parent.  One of the big advantages if you are co-parenting, (and there aren’t many advantages so you do have to make the most of them) is that you get a free babysitter on a fortnightly basis.  On Friday night, primarily to do some research for you all (honest!) I went to the Victoria and Albert museum (V&A) and their themed night on the Future of…

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When I was a little girl, and indeed right through my University years, my mother used to buy us each a little present to help us to survive Valentine’s Day .  She would give us a heart shaped chocolate lollipop or a little trinket to show that she loved us.  When I was a teenager and still living at home, it felt like all of my friends had boyfriends and were desperately in love (with some guy they’d met at…

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Once upon a time, a woman worked really hard at work.  Her skills and achievements were recognised by her colleagues and her seniors.  She was promoted and eventually made it to the Management Board.  Her colleagues on the Management Board were men and women in equal number and of all different colours and backgrounds. Once upon a time, a woman never got married, but had many fulfilling relationships, a job that was fun and interesting and bought a flat that…

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2018 is going to be my year of SELF.  I like a new year.   For me, a new year is about a fresh start, a clean state and an opportunity to re-set the clock and to shed the weight of last year’s problems, worries and anxieties. That’s not to say that last year’s problems magically disappear at the stroke of midnight on new year’s eve but for some reason the beginning of a new year enables me to look…

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