This is the rush hour of our lives.  We have children who need our focus and attention.  We have careers that need our energy, initiative and drive to really take off.  We have social commitments aplenty (hen and stag dos, weddings, divorce parties!) and we have the constant background hum of admin, chores, bills, mortgages and appointments. I feel as though I am driving at high speed in the fast lane of the motorway.  All I really want to do…

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I have been reading, watching and listening to a lot about mental health issues recently. I read Bryony Gordon’s Mad Girl in which she talks about her OCD, her depression, her bulimia and her anxiety.  Her style of writing is incredibly comical and it is not until you put the book down that you pause to consider the crippling effects of mental health issues.  Bryony Gordon describes her relationship with a violent boyfriend and how her low self-esteem, caused by…

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I’ve been feeling frazzled lately. What with a work/childcare schedule with no give or flexibility in it, a busy full time job and a whole heap of other things weighing on my mind there have been a few occasions recently when I have felt that it is all just too much. I have been feeling frazzled and needed to treat myself. Co-parenting, for all its drawbacks and believe me there are many, does give me the occasional time out. This weekend…

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I love a good podcast.  In fact podcasts have recently become a bit of an addiction. I look forward to my daily Podcast binge.  Whilst standing on a stuffy train on my commute to work Podcasts enable me to zone out and imagine that I am somewhere else and in conversation with some really interesting people.  I’m always on the look out for new and interesting podcasts and I’d love to hear your recommendations.  Here, in no particular order,  are…

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There are some curious goings on in the garages at the back of my flat. I like to keep an eye on what goes on in my block of flats.  I have told you about the wheelie-suitcase-wielding spinster who lives in the flat beneath me.  I think I also told you about the sexy guy who helped me carry the buggy down the stairs and then, just as I my teenage crush was beginning to blossom, he moved out. Behind…

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Everyone struggles sometimes.  Whilst our social media feeds may be showing perfect lives with sunshine filled images of smiling children and perfectly designed houses, there are cracks. There are cracks in the exterior.  There are cracks in the façade.   Everyone struggles.  Everyone is coping with something. I want to share something… This isn’t a story about me, or a story about Cygnet.  It is a story about a special person, a person very dear to me and Cygnet.  A…

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Women cannot have it all, and that is not just because our governments and society are failing us (and they are), it is because there are just not enough hours in the day. We cannot be the ideal homemaker at the same time as having the career that we dreamed of and studied for at University.  We all have to make compromises.  Every six months or so, I meet up with my University friends for a night out in London. …

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Since I had Cygnet my periods have been a lot heavier than they were before I had a baby.  One of you commented on my blog post about the clitoris that your orgasms have been different since you gave birth.  I don’t know why periods and orgasms might be different after childbirth –  I haven’t done my research yet, but I do know that on the first day of my period each month I wish I had shares in Tampax…

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The word clitoris derives from the Greek word kleitoris which means “little hill”.  For two millennia, we have thought that our most sensitive organ, which has no other purpose than to make us feel good, bears resemblance to a little hill.  This, my friends, is depressing. Our clitoris is so much more than a little hill.  Let me tell you how to find your clitoris, your whole clitoris. Cygnet is two and a half.  I don’t remember when he first…

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If your relationship has drifted apart, or if you want to know how to fall back in love with your partner, then you might want to try asking the 36 questions in love. Everywhere I went on Valentine’s Day I was surrounded by public kisses, bunches of flowers, couples holding hands, heart shaped balloons and teddy bears.  I bought a heart shaped helium balloon for my two year old son, because I love him, and I bought some chocolates for…

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