A personal note to a special person

special person

Everyone struggles sometimes.  Whilst our social media feeds may be showing perfect lives with sunshine filled images of smiling children and perfectly designed houses, there are cracks. There are cracks in the exterior.  There are cracks in the façade.   Everyone struggles.  Everyone is coping with something.

I want to share something…

This isn’t a story about me, or a story about Cygnet.  It is a story about a special person, a person very dear to me and Cygnet.  A person who we both love immensely. 

This special person is going through a really really difficult time at the moment.  For me, this is very disorientating, emotional and hard to navigate. I cannot get my head around it.  For my special person it is all of the above magnified a million times.  I cannot imagine what my special person is going through.  I cannot imagine the disorientation, the emotions, the confusion, the trauma going through my special person’s head. 

This is an anonymous blog, so in theory I should be able to share this story.   I want to tell you, and maybe in time I will, but it feels wrong.  Sharing my struggles is one thing.  Sharing someone else’s story leaves me feeling uneasy.  This is not my story to tell.  My special person needs to tell their own story.

Maybe in time I will be able to encourage my special person to share their story.  I know how this blog helped me through some dark times and how your support, encouragement and suggestions made me realise that I wasn’t the only one experiencing emotional abuse, struggling through separation, trying to navigate co-parenting and battling the stigma of single motherhood.

I know that some of you will have been through something similar to what my special person is going through now.  I believe that you will support my special person in the same way.  I believe that, once my special person is on the road to recovery, you can help my special person not just survive this, but turn the experience into a positive and really thrive. 

All I want to say now is that we need to remember that it is the cracks that let the light in. It is the cracks that help us to discover who we really are. The cracks shine light on what is really beautiful.

Fractured beauty defines us. 

My dearest –  I love you bigger than the world.

Brilliant blog posts on HonestMum.com

Sparkles & Stretchmarks Sunday Best


  1. April 4, 2017 / 8:43 pm

    Ah. I might be able to guess who your special person is. At the very least he/she has your support and love. Hope things will get easier for them very soon. X
    Sam recently posted…The Truth about… #98My Profile

    • thesingleswan
      April 4, 2017 / 10:31 pm

      Thank you Sam. Pen x

    • thesingleswan
      April 5, 2017 / 8:06 pm

      Thank you Sarah. Pen x

  2. April 5, 2017 / 10:13 pm

    What a lovely gesture to do this, you can feel the strenght in your emotion oozing throguh your fingertips, all the best for your special person xxx

    • thesingleswan
      April 5, 2017 / 10:21 pm

      Thanks Rebecca. Pen x

    • thesingleswan
      April 5, 2017 / 10:21 pm

      Thank you. Pen x

  3. April 6, 2017 / 6:25 am

    What a lovely post. They’re lucky to have you!

    • thesingleswan
      April 6, 2017 / 8:02 pm

      Thank you Kerry. Pen x

  4. April 6, 2017 / 6:29 am

    PS from #brilliantblogposts!

  5. April 6, 2017 / 11:00 am

    Oh What a lovely post – and I’m with you! People – all of us- have to go through some awful stuff! My blog helps me too! Wishing your special person so much needed light and well done to you too
    Cx #BrillBlogPosts

    • thesingleswan
      April 6, 2017 / 8:02 pm

      Thank you so much Clare. Pen x

  6. April 6, 2017 / 12:40 pm

    Ah I’m sorry to hear that this is happening. I think sometimes it is more difficult to see our loved ones going through tough times, than when we’re in the thick of it. I hope this passes quickly and that you are able to support your special person. #brillblogposts
    Lucy At Home recently posted…When Selfless Love Becomes Self AbuseMy Profile

    • thesingleswan
      April 6, 2017 / 7:59 pm

      Thank you Lucy. Pen x

  7. April 6, 2017 / 6:39 pm

    I hope that this post gives your special person a much needed boost to know that someone thinks of them so highly that they want to share their story and help them in their recovery. I hope that your special person gets the help they need. #brilliantblogpost
    five little doves recently posted…Easter Eggstravaganza (sorry!) Giveaway!!My Profile

    • thesingleswan
      April 6, 2017 / 7:58 pm

      Thank you very much. Pen x

    • thesingleswan
      April 9, 2017 / 8:08 pm

      Thank you Kristin. Pen x

    • thesingleswan
      April 12, 2017 / 7:39 pm

      Thank you. Pen x

  8. April 13, 2017 / 2:13 pm

    It all seems a little cryptic to me. May they find comfort and support. #mg

    • thesingleswan
      April 14, 2017 / 10:59 pm

      Fair point! Sorry. Pen x

    • thesingleswan
      April 14, 2017 / 10:57 pm

      Thank you. Pen x

  9. April 15, 2017 / 12:56 am

    Oh I am so sad to read this and know someone you love is struggling so much. You are so right, there are always cracks, with social media it is easy to believe all is perfect and pretty. I often say with my instagram how I post pretty pics but that is not the entire story of my life, that is me capturing pretty moments in my life, those moments are real, but so are the horrible, sad moments too. The whole reason I write under a pseudonym is because I am trying to protect myself from a horrible past. It is so easy to think everyone is happy but us, but we all have our struggles and pain. I truly hope your friend gets through this time, sending you hugs too xx #mg
    Mackenzie Glanville recently posted…bedroom decorMy Profile

    • thesingleswan
      April 15, 2017 / 10:39 pm

      HI Mac,

      thanks for your comment. I never knew you wrote under a pseudonym, but it makes absolute sense that you do. Pen x

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

CommentLuv badge