I blog anonymously. No one who I know in person even knows that I blog, let alone my blog identity. I don’t talk about blogging to my friends or to my family. My community of fellow bloggers, whom I consider to be my friends, are totally separate from my offline friends.
I blog anonymously because my blog is my therapy. For the first time readers among you, I am a newly single Mum. I am going through relationship break-up at the moment. It is a tough time and my blog is my therapy, my outlet. For therapy to be successful you have to be entirely honest. My blog is from the heart. This also means that my blog is not entirely complimentary about my ex partner or his family. I would not want my ex partner or his family to read my post All About my in-laws for example.
I blog anonymously because want my son to think that he has a great Dad. If I blogged as me, there is a chance that my son might find my blog in the future. If my son were to read my blog, he might feel compelled to side with one or other of us. I don’t want that. I want him to love both his Mum and his Dad, to think that we are both great and to know that we both love him.
Blogging anonymously has considerable drawbacks:
- It is harder for the reader to connect with you. I really like blogs with photos. A photo of the author, their families, their days out. It makes it easier to identify with the blogger. It is much more personal than my swan avatar. My photos thus far are limited primarily to flowers and trees – boring!
- It is harder to build traffic. I have created a new twitter account for The Single Swan. I have made sure that I don’t promote The Single Swan to anyone that I know in real life. This means no emails, I can’t use my network of Facebook friends or the various real-life Mum’s networks that I am part of. The Single Swan really is swimming alone.
- You have to be careful not to sign comments with your real name. Yep, I’ve almost done this a few times. It is only a matter of time.
- I am proud of my blog, but I can’t tell anyone about it. My blog is a real achievement for me. I never thought that I would own a domain name, be able to set up a website, figure out html code (okay I admit that I only have basic knowledge). I like the way it looks. I enjoy writing. I want to talk about it, but I can’t.
- It looks shady and secretive. People wonder why and what I am hiding. This is why I have tried to explain why I blog anonymously on my About Me page, but I doubt everyone understands. I fear people think I have something to hide.
Do you find it difficult to connect with people who blog anonymously?