I have officially been a blogger for about a month. I have read a lot, written quite a lot, learned a lot and have been inspired a lot during my first month as a newbie blogger. My blog is my journey as a newly single Mum, but there is a lot of other stuff in here as well. A monthly round-up of what I written, what I’ve read and been inspired by, and what is in the pipeline feels like a good idea. So, here goes: my first month as a newbie blogger.
What I’ve written
Inspired by a series of lectures at the Southbank Centre in London I found myself thinking a lot about Margaret Thatcher. I want to like her: she had conviction; she was a great leader; she changed the political landscape. She should be a feminist icon. But she also destroyed communities, she made things worse for women and she had no ability to empathise with society’s ‘losers’. However much I try, I just couldn’t make myself like her.
The second in ‘Baby goes to Daddy’ series. I went to a collection of lectures as part of the festival of Changing Britain at the Southbank Centre.
This was a deep and wine fuelled post in which I ponder life’s crossroads or key decision points. I am at a crossroads now. The path I take will determine the rest of my life and my son’s life. But, I need to take my own path rather than let my ex partner dictate that I always take his. I have no regrets.
The title speaks for itself. My parents are awesome. In this post I tell you why.
This was probably the biggest argument that I had with my (non-religious) ex partner. He wanted our son christened a Catholic to get him a golden ticket to a good local Catholic school. I could not make a promise that I have no intention of keeping to a God I do not believe in. There were some interesting points made in the comments.
I realised my son was spending a lot of time looking up at trees – so I photographed some.
My first six weeks of breastfeeding was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It was my greatest challenge but I now consider it to be my greatest achievement. This is my breastfeeding story.
Separating from my partner has meant that I have seen less of my son. I have really struggled. I decided to create a ‘Baby goes to Daddy’ series. In these blogs I tell you how I distract myself to take my mind off missing my son. I also try to do things that I just could not do with a baby.
I separated from my partner. In his eyes and often in the eyes of those around us he is the victim and I am giving up and taking the easy way out. Ending a relationship and becoming a single mum could never be the easy way out. It takes immense courage.
My first ever blog post! Struggling with the enormity of the challenges ahead I try to focus on the day-to-day whilst not losing sight of what I want the future for me and my son to look like. I focus on the reasons why his father and I need to maintain an amicable relationship…however hard it feels.
What I’ve read
Ok, as a newbie blogger, I’ve read a lot, an awful lot, so I’ve decided to limit this section to three blogs or blog posts every month. These are my three for my first month:
Tor’s blog has given me hope. There have been some very low points in the last couple of months. I found Tor’s blog and she helped me realise that the future can be bright. She has a wonderful son, a happy relationship and a really positive and upbeat outlook. Her post The Ex Files has helped me to work out what I want from my co-parenting relationship. She does some pretty cool doodles too!
Another key blogger for me. Both The Secret Divorcee and Tor have some great advice for single mothers on their blogs. The Secret Divorcee has also written a great post on how single parents might want to vote in the forthcoming election. I have been sick and tired of all election coverage for some time now and I have to admit that this post has probably done more than any article, programme, leaflet, debate to inform my voting choices.
Unlike the above two blogs, this blogger did not inspire me to create my own blog. I only discovered it the other night whilst checking out the BritMums Brilliance in Blogging shortlist 2015. Yvette’s post A Word on Loss was so beautifully written. You can really feel her pain. I sobbed. I will never forget this post for as long as I live and for this reason I include it here.
What’s in the blogger pipeline?
- My thoughts on Feminism. I went to a lecture on Feminism at the Changing Britain festival and since then have been reading about 4th Wave Feminism. I am going to tell you about it.
- How it feels to be back at work full time. Pretty rubbish to be honest, but I’ll try to look for some positives.
- Some more about relationship breakdown and single motherhood. This is after all The Beginner’s Guide to Single Motherhood and I am afraid, dear reader, that this blog is proving to be great therapy for me.
Thank you for reading and I look forward to seeing you again soon.