William and Kate (The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge) looked radiant and relaxed earlier on today as they presented their beautiful and sleeping daughter, the Royal baby, to the world. Both of them were beaming.
It was so perfect that it was almost not real. I think back to eight hours after I gave birth – blood was pouring out of me. There is no way I could have contemplated wearing a white and yellow dress, or walking down steps, particularly in elegant heals. They are the fairy tale.
The image of the three of them on the steps today gave me hope. One of the most difficult things for me as a newly single mum is knowing that my son will not grow up with parents who love each other. I fear the impact that this will have on him, on his future relationships, on his ability to love. His parents will not be role-modelling the loving, caring, supportive relationship that I want him to have, to cherish and to fight for.
And then I think about William’s childhood. William’s father Charles, Prince of Wales, married his mother Diana, Princess of Wales, on 29 July 1981. There were reportedly difficulties between the Prince and Princess as early as 1985. Their marriage fell apart during the early 1990s. Both of his parents had affairs. The demise of their marriage was played out in intricate detail in the world media.
I cannot begin to imagine the impact that this must have had on both William and his brother Harry.
The marriage finally came to an end after the Princess’s Panorama interview in November 1995. Referring to Charles’ affair with his now wife Camilla Parker-Bowles, Diana famously said, “Well, there were three of us in this marriage, so it was a bit crowded.” Just before Christmas 1995 Buckingham Palace sent letters to Charles and Diana asking them to divorce. Can you imagine that; your Grandmother sending letters to both of your parents asking them to divorce? Diana, Princess of Wales was stripped of her Her Royal Highness title. William is reported to have comforted her: ”Don’t worry, Mummy, I will give it back to you one day when I am King”.
Diana herself commented, “My husband made me feel inadequate in every possible way that each time I came up for air he pushed me down again …”. They finally divorced on 28 August 1996. Diana died in a car crash in Paris just over a year later on 31 August 1997.
There is no way that the tempestuous marriage of his parents, their divorce, their resentment of each other played out in the media, and then his mother’s untimely death did not have an impact on William. Charles and Diana did not role model the happy family that William and Kate have fought for and achieved.
The footage of Kate and William today showed a loving, caring, tender and supportive relationship. William took Kate’s elbow to help her down the steps, he held her round the waist, he looked at her adoringly as she looked adoringly at the Royal baby, her second child.
The images of William and Kate today have given me hope; hope that my son will be able to have a loving relationship with a partner who he adores and admires. The fairy tale clearly is achievable, so maybe I should stop feeling guilty. The Royal baby has reaffirmed my belief in fairy tales.
Research and citations taken from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diana,_Princess_of_Wales.